Parenting Woes

What I do

wake Achu up
dress him up for school
feed him breakfast
take him out  
give him dinner
get him to sleep
......and if our nanny doesn't turn up and Amma doesn't have the strength
pick him from school
feed him lunch
make him have his afternoon nap

Have taken Achu
to the park
to eateries around the place
to the movies
to his grandparents
to visit relatives
to playdates with friends
to the beach
to funstations
to the supermarket
to shops of his interest and mine
to the temple

Of course these are motherly duties ...I agree...and I agree am not as good as some of the other mothers I have come across in the real and blog world

But at least I try

What M does

Sometimes After Recurring Requests(ARR) gets achu to brush his teeth ...its truly an ordeal I tell you
If I am busy in the kitchen and ARR irons his uniform
Gives him a bath ARR
drops Achu at school...one of the few advantages of not knowing to drive
takes him to umpteen car shops and trial drives  ARR or sometimes without
sometimes takes him to shops of Achu's and his interest

Otherwise he has taken us to many places but only ARR

I admit I don't really bother to play with Achu.....primarily because he plays with cars and he loves wrestling
and running around....but am totally guilty on that note ....and pinch every possible oppurtunity to take him someplace we both can have fun together and individually

Won't blame M for not being the father I imagine him to be cause maybe I am not the mother he imagines me to be...Its quite possible that he is just being the father his father was to him and me still working on being the mother my mother was to me...my father was like M ...so that proves it but doesn't justify it ;)

Hey Achu if you ever read this blog ....I wrote this when I was in the "I-want-to-blame-somebody" mood and today the victim happens to be M ...ur dad :)....all said and done he's a good guy alrite....( wow I really typed that?????...jus in case M reads this :b)

School Blues

Achu doesn't like the idea of going to school everyday. He hates school. It's not like he makes a big racket before going. He does attempt to skip school


"Amma I think I have a sore throat"
"Do I really HAVE to go to school"
" innu leave annnnnnnuuuuuu" ( Today is a holiday )
"Amma nadhakan patinillaaa...kallu vedhana" ( Amma I can't walk...my legs hurt )
Sometimes he has a tummyache in the head and otherwise a headache in the tummy! :)

But once he gets ready he leaves quite happily sometimes ...and more often reluctantly but submissively

I wonder if the school we chose wasn't the right one or the teacher isn't good or achu is getting bullied by the other kids.....

Flash back : I hated school till the 5th grade. I totally hated it. The idea of waking up early morning, homework, tests, some teachers made me dislike school. But later on when I had my gang of friends I loved the idea of being around them for close to 8 hours gossiping,passing notes,snacking,sharing lunch and cutting class by enrolling in any volunteering job that comes our way made me enjoy school.

So I guess things will fall in place ..The Indian education system doesn't get interesting at any point of time...atleast for me that didn't happen ....I pray achu finds his gang of friends and activities fast...so the process of going to school doesn't remain a process afterall.

When Achu becomes Amma

Achu loves to role play.....and this time he was me :)

He took one of my dupattas and put it like I usually do and walked around the house.


"Achu odheley" (achu don't run)

" Ammeyku officeillu ponnam" ( Amma has to go to office )

I interupt " bashe night ayilley office illelo?" ( but you don't have office at night?)

" Idhu night duty annu"( this is night duty)

Then he takes my phone and starts to talk

I whine " Amma phone vekku amma" ( Amma please keep the phone )

" Achu idhu important call annu shhhhh " ( this is an important call )